Communication is both challenging as well as rewarding at the same time. For some of us, sparking up a conversation with a new person, or even an old friend is as easy as breathing. It requires almost no effort, and can go on for hours. I fall into this category, but I also recognize that not everyone has the same gift for gab.
I know others who find conversation to be a complete drain. Even the thought causes feelings of anxiety and worry. Most people would label this group introverts. I know many, and I enjoy conversations with them. I simply recognize that experience is different for each of us.
Even though introverts and extroverts may have different approaches to conversations, both sides can experience powerful growth through conversation. No, I am not talking superficial conversations, like those you have at a large gathering of strangers, as these are the situations that introverts find draining. I am talking about deep meaningful conversation.
Introverts like deep conversations just as much as extroverts, they just like them with less people around.
In a world where everything seems rushed and time is spread thin across so many of life's responsibilities, finding time to hold a lengthy conversation is a challenge. Long deep conversations is where we get to explore ideas and where we get to know people beyond the surface level. This can lead to deeper more meaningful relationships. It also allows us the opportunity to grow as individuals.
In long conversations we get to think through ideas and explore different perspectives. This can lead us to reconsider positions, come up with creative thought strands, and actually work toward fully formed positions on topics. I love when I get to talk faith with people, and I get to ask them "Why do you believe what you believe?" This seemingly simple question can be overwhelming.
Many people have never fully had to explain their stance on specific topics. When we attempt to articulate our thoughts, whether on paper, or spoken, we have a tenancy to think through our stance more fully. This can lead to revelation, and even cause us to consider why we believe what we believe.
As far as relationships and friendships go, deep meaningful conversations give a glimpse into the heart. This is hard to do in short superficial settings. The longer a discussion goes, the more intimate and revealing the conversation can become. This is where we move beyond acquaintances, and become friends.
When was the last deep conversation you had with someone? Don't wait for the time to be right, pursue these types of conversations, and go deeper into your relationships.
Amen